What is Power Love?
We call many things love.
I remember in grade 9 when I had a major crush on Josh, this guy at school. I used to obsess over him. After school, I’d get my markers out and write his name over and over and over. I’d write Michelle + Josh and Josh is Hot. I love Josh…. I couldn’t stop thinking about him and it was all-consuming. I called that love.
Or at age 25, Steve adored me for months before I liked him back. That felt so darn amazing. I was confident in his love because he thought I was the bees knees and he never looked at another woman. Sure, he was an alcoholic that lacked ambition and made promises he could never keep but I still loved him.
When I hit my 30s I basically started selling my soul for physical affection- justifying friends with benefits, and sleeping with non-committal men hoping they’d fall madly in love with me so I could have my Rom-Com fantasy come-true.
I knew it wasn’t love but I told myself it was ok because I loved myself.
I speak with many women who tell me how much they love themselves and love the men who cheated on her, ignored her, bored her, hit her, or drained her broke. Is this really love sisters? I suppose it could be.
Its not the love I stand for and it’s not what I teach.
Why?
Because IF the love in your life sacrifices, drains, or disempowers you, then I would argue that love, in the truest sense, is depleting not growing.
Power Love in a relationship fills you both up. You adore each other, empower each other and challenge each other to grow. You are two independent people who have an authentic partnership- you know, like when two people are more committed to passion, play, and fulfillment than winning an argument. They each see to it that the other is known, celebrated, and fulfilled. That’s what I’m talking about. Can I get a hell ya? (hell ya!!)
Step 1
So the first step is admitting you have a problem. Kidding! Well, not really. In order to fulfill on something that you don’t already have you have to admit that you want something that you don’t have! And that’s tricky because confident women like us don’t like to admit when we are struggling with something. We like to say that we are fine with how things are and that it’s probably for the best, blah blah blah. Don’t you hate it when a strength starts becoming a weakness? Tricky strengths.
This is where it is key to power love YOURSELF as much as you want to power love anyone else. It’s time for you to power love yourself enough to go after the things you really want, even the things that you’re not sure you’ll get.
This is why I say over and over:
Love Yourself. Love Your Life. Fall in Love… don’t settle.
It’s a distinct paradigm for living life and I wholeheartedly recommend it.
Step 2
Declare you’re ready for a change. The best way to turn this declaration into a reality is to do the math. For example, do you want kids? When? Back track 9 months then another 6-12 months of trying. Subtract a year for marriage and another 6-12 months for engagement. How long do you want to date before he proposes? Do you want to live together first? How long will you date before that? In that case, when do you need to meet this guy?
OK ARE YOU READY FOR CHANGE NOW?
Maybe you don’t want kids, but go ahead and do the same thing for travelling together, or buying a home together or building a business together. If you’re reading this article then my darling sister, it’s time to admit that YOU ARE READY TO MAKE A CHANGE.
Step 3
So here’s what I suggest. Get on the phone with me or one of my breakthrough coaches and find out… just find out what it would take to get you there. Stop trying to figure all this stuff out on your own. It hasn’t worked so far, so what do you have to lose? Find out if Power Love Project is your answer. Visit michellebaxo.com/apply TO BOOK YOUR FREE CALL
Now the reason I’m not just suggesting that you sign up is because we need to be really clear that you’re a match for the program before inviting you to participate. Some people need to fall farther than others before they are ready to make a commitment towards change. We are all a little different that way.
Michelle Baxo
Power Love Founder, Coach and Mentor