5 authentic ways to be more confident
5 authentic ways to be more confident
Do you ever say to yourself, “I don’t feel good enough?” What would a confidence boost do for you and your life? I bet a lot!
Below are phrases you may tell yourself which is an indicator you need an AUTHENTIC confidence boost.
I’m not good enough
It’s not in the cards for me
I tried but I can’t
What’s wrong with me?
You may also wish you had more friends that align with your values and interests, maybe you have no luck dating or you want take your career to the next level – guess what – that takes ELEVATING your confidence!
Here are 5 ways to elevate your confidence authentically
- Step 1 – Get clear on your values and your goals. Confidence is all about being unwavering when it comes to who you are and what you have to offer the world. So take some time and get clear on that. I recommend starting with YOUR values, like what’s important to YOU, and your goals.
- Step 2 – Stay in your own lane. Comparing yourself to others is never productive and will leave you questioning yourself and likely vear you off track. So get clear about what YOU are out to accomplish and stay in your own lane.
- Step 3 – Allow the insecurities. Whatever we resist, persists. One of the biggest mistakes people make is that they get mad at their insecurities and reprimand them saying “Bad insecurity!” But the problem with this is it only makes you feel worse about yourself!It’s the little girl in you that is feeling these insecurities and you wouldn’t get mad at a little girl who feels insecure right? You wouldn’t tell her to shut up. You would accept her and love her.So when you first notice that you have an insecure thought or feeling, the first thing to do is to love and comfort that little girl inside you. Tell her that it’s OK to have those feelings. You’ll be surprised, the insecurity won’t get bigger when you allow for it. It actually feels lighter.
- Step 4 – Be logical. Ok, this is a great step for you cynical ones out there because the fake compliments like “you’re awesome” don’t work for you. So I want you to be logical. Let’s say you’re feeling fat. The truth is, you are thinner than some people in the world and fatter than others. No matter what you lack confidence in, it’s pretty safe to assume that you’re better than some and worse than others.So what!?! My point here is that you don’t need to inflate yourself to be confident. You can just get grounded in REALITY and move on.
- Step 5 – Focus on contribution. The best way to feel confident is to stop getting caught up in the superficial ways we measure ourselves. Volunteer, start a movement or get involved with an organization that makes a difference. Become the kind of person who has better things to do than to worry about being perfect or thinner, or liked by everyone.
Look, I have no interest in you “looking confident”. I want you to BE confident, and these steps are a great start.
Below are some other resources for you to keep you going on your confidence journey:
If you want to tap into your inner wisdom, create a blank slate and begin to move forward, then participate in my Power Love Visualization.
If you want to learn 6 ways to find love without compromising yourself, then be sure to participate in my Power Love Workshop.
Out of the 5 ways to elevate your confidence authentically, which one will you try first?