How to Love Yourself After a Breakup (WITHOUT GIVING UP)
Are you on a self discovery journey and learning how to love yourself after a breakup?
Men and women handle break-ups very differently. Men may start dating someone else fairly quickly, whereas women often go on a quest for self-love. This can take YEARS before women are ready for love again, but it doesn’t have to. I’m about to save you ALOT of time.
Self-love is a key component to being loved in a healthy fulfilling way. I’ve had clients come to me after years of self-love and personal development work, but have no evidence of anything actually changing in their love life, except maybe to not want one as much.
Here are 3 critical stops to learning how to love yourself after a breakup so you don’t put a halt on your future love life.
After a break-up, the first stop you need to make after is a combination of owning your part and forgiving both yourself and him. I recommend you forgive him first. No matter what he did or didn’t do, he’s human and is on his own path and journey. It’s not your job to hold negative energy towards him. In fact, holding negative energy only brews inside of you. Think of forgiving him as releasing him. Next I want you to Own your part in the relationship not working. Maybe you chose to ignore a bundle of red flags, tolerated being treated poorly, or maybe you were a bit of a pill yourself sometimes. But don’t get down on yourself, just own it where you can. Hindsight is 20/20 remember? And after you’ve done this, forgive yourself. You’re human too! Take the lesson and set yourself free from the regret.
The second stop on your self-love journey is to make is a vow to yourself. A vow regarding your commitment to love in your life and what it really means to you. I’m a believer in having it all. If you were in love before, I know you want love again but just may not want THAT kind of love again. I bet you have a vision of love that you DO want. I want you to write it out! Write out your vision of love and create a vow to yourself. A vow that you will not only love yourself in that way, but also love others that way and allow others to love you that way.
I do this regularly, even while in my relationship! Let me read what I wrote about a year ago that still rings true for me.
I have a vision of love and I live it. It’s made of passion,
partnership, fun, empowerment, and growth.
Nothing is taken for granted. True love raises the
vibration of human existence. True love connects
us together and sets us free. This is the love
we came here for. To allow and create.
This kind of vow or declaration molds and shapes our self-love journey without creating walls. In fact, it creates openings for future love as you learn how to love yourself after a breakup!
The third stop to make in your self-love journey is an alignment check-in. Here’s what you do. Look at all the areas of your life and what is really important to you. Are your actions and mindset consistent with what’s important to you? If not, start making those changes today.
BUT remember, alignment is a life-long journey. Don’t wait to have all the results you want in your life before allowing love back in. In other words, don’t go using alignment as an excuse to put up a wall! Start simple. Honor yourself and your values with aligned choices every day.
Focus on these three stops on your self-love journey to learn how to love yourself after a breakup and elevate your capacity to be loved very quickly.
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