The 5 likely reasons he ghosted you
Did someone you are dating or chatting with seem to disappear out of nowhere?
Then you, my friend, have been ghosted. There’s no getting around it, being ghosted feels awful, so it’s important you know what you might have done to cause this irregular behavior and how to know if it’s actually a blessing in disguise.
So here are the top 5 most common reasons why people are ghosted.
Reason #1
He’s realized that he’s not going to get what he wants from you. Now this could be a very good thing if he’s looking for a one-night stand and you’re looking for a relationship. Good riddance!
Or there are people online who are actually out scamming and trying to rip you off. So if they realized that you’re not an ideal victim, then great, he’s gonna disappear. Awesome, sayonara!
Reason #2
You might have shown some red flags. This could be something as simple as over messaging him, like sending too many messages in too short a period of time which makes you come across really insecure or controlling or it could be if you’re acting like a girlfriend before you’re actually in a relationship.
These are the kinds of things that are red flags for men and they’re much more likely to just ghost you rather than say what you did wrong so to speak because they don’t want to invite any drama into their life.
This is a great opportunity to check in with yourself. Did you demonstrate any of that unhealthy or insecure behavior? If you did, then it’s also a blessing in disguise because no relationship is gonna last when you’re in an unhealthy place. So the work to do then is to get yourself to that healthy place.
Reason #3
He met someone else. This happens a lot in online dating where you know people are talking with lots of different people and even if you felt a connection you don’t know what kinds of connections he’s made with other people. Often once people find a relationship, they forget everybody else, everyone else sort of disappears in their mind. But for you, it seems like he’s disappeared.
Reason #4
He realized that you’re not his type and he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. Now in an ideal world, you’d be everyone’s type. But we know that’s not the case just like everyone’s not your type. So it’s not actually a personal rejection, it’s just people like what they like and they don’t like what they don’t like. Especially if they’re looking for a relationship, right?
So don’t take it personally and yes ideally someone would let you know but not everybody has that kind of social courage. Some people are really sensitive to the idea of hurting someone’s feelings so they avoid it like the plague and just end up dropping all communication. It sucks but hopefully that gives you an understanding of why people sometimes exhibit that behavior.
Reason #5
He’s a flake. Some people again, especially in the online world and even some offline, who will spend a lot of time with you and then get distracted by something else. Work gets busy or they meet another person or they decide they’re not really looking to date and they just refocus on something else and drop all communication.
Now sometimes when people exhibit this behavior they resurface. So if this person comes back in a few weeks time, saying like “hey, how’s it going? I was thinking of you.” This is where I invite you to take a stand for what you deserve and for what you really want for yourself in your life. My recommendation, if someone flakes out on you and disappears and then resurfaces randomly, thank them but say no thank you.
And no matter what the reason is for someone ghosting you, here’s the mindset I invite you to stand in. BE GRATEFUL that there’s one less person who’s not your match taking up space in your life!
With these five common reasons why people get ghosted, take the lessons and move on! And if you’re a strong independent woman looking for a lasting love, then your next step is to sign up for my Power Love workshop. You’ll love it, just come with something to write with and write on. It will help you move you to the next phase of your life. And remember…