3 Unhealthy Relationship Signs
Not sure if you’re in the right or wrong relationship?
Watch the video to get clear on the 3 Unhealthy Relationship Signs and know what to do about it.
Let me guess, your mind won’t shut up. You have this nagging thought that maybe this relationship isn’t THE ONE after all. I’ve been there myself and I do this professionally so let’s get you clear, shall we?
First I need to say, determining whether or not you’re in the right relationship is impossible if you’re not whole and complete within yourself.
The Three Unhealthy Relationship Signs Are:
The First Sign to look for actually has nothing to do with him and everything to do with YOU.
Ask yourself:
– Am I Living and Acting Consistent with My Values? AM I ALIGNED?
– Or are you letting him take the lead of MY LIFE?
If your actions and mindset are not aligned with what’s important to YOU, than you haven’t given this relationship a real chance. You need to make it YOUR job to be aligned and happy within yourself by aligning your values with your mindset and actions.
Until you do that, NO relationship will ever feel quite right. Does that mean you need to leave the relationship? Not necessarily. But getting yourself aligned should be your first focus, with or without him.
How effective are you with communicating
your needs and boundaries?
Are you being your whole self in this relationship or are you starting to lose your sense of self? Tell me about it in the comments below.
The Second Sign that you’re in the wrong relationship is that he doesn’t respect your values. Now again, you have to give the guy a chance by communicating your values, what’s important to you. You have to be the police of your alignment. HOWEVER, if he’s trying to talk you out of going to yoga, laughing at you for trying to better yourself with personal development courses and/or trying to convince you to live a lifestyle outside of your values, then consider this is the WRONG relationship.
The Third Sign that you’re in the wrong relationship is that you both want different things from the relationship. This can be so hard to face, especially if you’re having fun now or you’re trapped in the mindset that something is better than nothing.
So I suppose it depends on what stage of life you’re in. The women I work with want to be with the person they are going to share their life with. So if that’s you, you need to make sure he’s on the same page.
If you want kids and he doesn’t then you’re in the wrong relationship. If you want monogamy and he doesn’t, wrong relationship. If you want to wait a period of time before getting physically intimate and he’s making you feel guilty for it, then you are in the wrong relationship. He’s not a bad person for any of this, it’s just simply not a match.
So let’s say it’s starting to look like you’re in the wrong relationship, what do you do? Well first, you need to give this guy a chance to win with you. If he doesn’t know the rules, he can’t win, so grab your courage and TALK to him (not text, not a letter, TALK). Tell him that you’ve been out of alignment with yourself and what YOU are going to do about it. Tell him what your values are and help him understand how he can respect your values and your boundaries. Be clear about what you want in the future and find out if he wants the same. After that, it’s fair game.
Now maybe a part of you suspects that this relationship resembles an all-too-familiar pattern.
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